tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021431120976968872.post6710280398359873114..comments2018-07-19T18:33:33.016-07:00Comments on Is It Really All Random?: I Was WrongPamela Kinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07476316799150084354noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021431120976968872.post-35714473585486398012013-08-17T08:46:26.015-07:002013-08-17T08:46:26.015-07:00I'm trying to do as you well articulated, what...I'm trying to do as you well articulated, what I can and what I know is right. I attempt to refrain from judging harshly, ask for what I need, monitor my "80%", watch for a door that could open, and while doing all this, protect my heart. At this age I've seen many unexpected things happen; in the end it might all shake out differently than it appears right now.<br />Pamela Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07476316799150084354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021431120976968872.post-23060795197507010972013-08-17T00:06:19.052-07:002013-08-17T00:06:19.052-07:00Pam,
Very honest.
I too, do not have the power to...Pam,<br />Very honest. <br />I too, do not have the power to take the pain away but I am certain you will find the answer. Perhaps you already have.<br />For me and my broken family the answer has been acceptance. My therapist encouraged me to be the "glue" for my family and I had to finally tell her I was not up to the task. We need more than glue to save us. <br />The sad part of it all is that my parents would be so sad to see how me and my 6 siblings are not involved with each other anymore. <br />So I made some decisions. I decided NOT to spend anymore energy on those who do not wish to be in my life. I have decided to accept what is. I also decided to make an effort to build on those relationships with those who do wish to see me. I feel this is the best I can do to live up to my parents legacy. They worked so hard all of their lives for us and it would be a shame...a crime...to not try and mend the fence where I was able to. <br />So, I guess what I am saying in very simple terms is we do what we can and what we know is right. That's all. I did this when my parents were alive and when they both were ill. And now, I have to continue to do the same now that they are gone. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10033247149186254632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021431120976968872.post-63503484759045419312013-08-16T12:35:07.840-07:002013-08-16T12:35:07.840-07:00What you have said has also occurred to me. It has...What you have said has also occurred to me. It has also crossed my mind that because I am willing to handle the most unpleasant of tasks it gives opening for the less willing and/or capable to disappear. Not like things won't be handled, right? So I know I have a role in this outcome. <br /><br />Insofar as executing responsibility to be communicative, I've been a champ and haven't had a partner. That is the hardest part. To be left wondering. I have distanced myself so as not to be angered or disappointed; if an opportunity presents to reestablish rapport, I will then be less likely to miss it due to rampant ill emotion. That said, I'm not planning on creating the opportunity. It will unfold with another at the helm. <br /><br />Thanks for being such a loving and compassionate friend and supporter.<br />Pamela Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07476316799150084354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021431120976968872.post-89324437472484707542013-08-15T16:35:59.055-07:002013-08-15T16:35:59.055-07:00Pam, so much of what you write leaves me speechles...Pam, so much of what you write leaves me speechless. In deep thought, thinking of my own family, and wondering what, if anything, can I say to help you. Then I realize I can't say anything. All I can do is to say, "Thank you". Thank you for writing; thank you for sharing. But a thought does come forward: Brother 2 may not be helping you the way you'd like him to help, but maybe he's not able to deal with the loss, the inevitable loss. The 3 of you are all different--no doubt like the 4 of us Hottle Girls. Don't give up on him -- not yet! Love and hugs to you.Jerry and Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13341977771428470032noreply@blogger.com